various goodbyes--another word from our sponsor

[Christine Karatnytsky]

Vaska, I posted that message publicly because I took a few days to
reconsider my own situation and found that taking a breather helped. 
Neither the message nor the advice was directed specifically towards you,
though you may benefit from both. While I could have done much to handle
our off-list exchange better, I must say that you were as insensitive,
unresponsive, and contentious then as you are here and now.  As you
usually are on this list.  It would help things considerably if you took
a minute to walk around in another person's shoes, as they say. 

I really hope I don't seem self-righteous to anyone now.  My last message
and this one are a sincere attempt to help scale down the fireworks.  It
is not part of a manipulation.  My off-list messages to you were simply
off-list messages.  They were not the dread machinations of an attempt to
repress what rightly belongs in the consciousness of the screen.  That
nasty flame about "electronic hairpulling" made me cry, for goodness
sake, and despite a reputation for being "out there," I can also be quite
discreet.  As far as I understand list etiquette, it is inappropriate to
engage in extended and  heated personal exchanges on-list.  That's all. 
This isn't therapy, though some of us may need it.  I wrote to you
off-list in a vain attempt to explain myself, to express my anger, and to
ask for your forbearance.  No plots, no games.

My attempt was as pointless then as it is now, as you view me as some
kind of nut.  I won't be so unkind as to repeat publicly what I think of
you, but I think you've made yourself clear to everyone.  I'll simply
repeat my request that you leave me alone.  Having you go away entirely
would be lovely, as it seems this is the way you intend to behave on an
on-going basis,  but it's entirely too much to hope for.

Chris