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[Vaska Tumir]

OK.

Vaska the Bilious, Netiquette-Challenged,
Willfully-Misreading-Intentionally- Misleading, Flame-Throwing, Fire-Eating,
Inattentive Bully-Monster of the P-List

At 03:22 PM 9/27/97 EDT, Christine Karatnytsky wrote:
>Vaska, I don't think you've done a very good job of paying attention.
>
>One last time:  I tried to get through our mutual anger to make some
>connection with you off-list because I believe that to be the appropriate
>forum for non-list business.  I have been taught that this is the desired
>norm of the cyber-universe by more than one listserv mentor.  I fail to
>see what is so difficult to comprehend about a fundamental tenet of list
>etiquette.  Yet, you continue to label it as harmful.  I repeat:  This
>isn't therapy. 
>
>As I have said, I quite possibly could have done a better job of mending
>fences with you, though your tendency towards willful misreading would
>make it hard for Leo Buscaglia, the Mahatma Gandhi, and the Wizard of Oz
>combined--or the mediator/miracle maker of your choice.  Regrettably, the
>only thing accomplished was an exacerbation of our tender situation to
>the point where you have described my off-list actions as "sneaky,"
>"semi-sicko," and "hypocritical," among several other choice terms.  If
>this can't be described as "nasty, snide or mean-spirited," then you need
>more than a reality check, my dear.  You should read your previous
>*public* message to me (forget about your *private* biliousness) for its
>bottom-line assumptions.  Your incredulity about why I would be angry
>with you after this, not to mention hurt, is stunning.
>
>Your willingness to presume bad faith is as painful as it is confounding.
> Your readiness to attack when I have said that I wanted to be left alone
>is bullying.  Your pattern of quoting private mail in a public forum when
>you have been expressly informed by the folks here that this is an
>unacceptable transgression is contemptuous, not only of me but of them. 
>
>Let me tell you that my previous efforts to untangle misunderstandings,
>to express anger, and to repair relationships in the off-list forum have
>all ended successfully.  Even Dana, who may have had more cause to be
>upset with me than anyone, has accepted my offer of friendship along with
>my explanations for past actions.  You are the only person who treats a
>private exchange with  suspicion and disdain.  You think this muddies the
>waters.  I don't know why.  What's more, I don't care to know.  I gave it
>my best shot.  You may have felt attacked because I was angry, but I was
>attempting to do discreetly what you want to make available for all to
>see.  As this is inappropriate, it ain't my style.
>
>This is my last post on the matter and I ask you respectfully to observe
>my wishes and let it drop.  If you continue to pursue it, I won't reply. 
>I attempted to straighten things out with you as I was most comfortably
>able.  I won't continue to allow you to denigrate my honest efforts with
>your small-minded nastiness by making another offer to work through this
>off-list, and this issue is no longer important enough to me to make it
>worth getting flamed by working through it *on-list*.  
>
>Chris   
>