grgr (34): the sharp beatings mutti gave to me

[Lorentzen / Nicklaus]

   "but sharper than a mother's tears
    are the beatings mutti gave to me ..." (736)


 [- well, in my personal case she (r.i.p) always told my father to do so, which 
 he, most of the time, did without any real commitment].


   "... the being-beaten of the male fantasy, how i will call it shortly and    
   hopefully not misleadingly, is also a by regression humiliated being-loved   
   in the genital sense. the unconscious male fantasy thus has originally not   
   sounded 'i am beaten by the father', (...), but rather 'i  a m  l o v e d    
   b y  t h e  f a t h e r. it has, by the well known processes, been        
   transformed into the conscious fantasy 'i  a m  b e a t e n  b y  t h e
   m o t h e r.' the beating-fantasy of the boy is, thus, from the very    
   beginning a passive one, truly originated from the feminine attitude towards 
   the father. it corresponds also, like the female one (that of the girl), to  
   the oedipus-complex, yet the expected parallelism between the two has given  
   way to a common ground of another kind: i n   b o t h   c a s e s  t h e 
   b e a t i n g - f a n t a s y  i s   d e r i v e d   f r o m   t h e
   i n c e s t o u s   f a t h e r - t i e."

   (m.o.p.a.t. from sigmund freud: "ein kind wird geschlagen". pp. 229-254, here 
   249, in: studienausgabe volume vii, "zwang, paranoia und perversion", ffm 
   1982: s. fischer)

 kfl