VLVL2 (14): Getting In Touch With His Feelings

[Tim Strzechowski]

297.9:   Following the wisdom of the time, Zoyd, bobbing around among the flotsam of his sunken marriage, had been giving in to the impulse to cry, anytime it came on him, alone or in public, Getting In Touch With His Feelings at top volume, regardless of how it affected onlookers, their own problems, their attitude toward life, their lunch.  After hearing enough remarks like "No wonder she left you," "Blow your nose and act like a man," and "Cut your hair while you're at it," he'd come to think of crying as another form of pissing, just as likely at the wrong time and place to get him in trouble, and he learned after a while how to hold it all in till later, till he could safely be taken by the high salt wave, often while some door was still closing, some emergency brake just notched up tight."


[...] And while men usually fare better financially than women in a divorce, experts say it's the men who are much more likely to come unglued emotionally - seriously unglued. 

Eugene Palmore, a musician and seminary student in New York, told me that when his marriage ended more than 10 years ago, he spent weeks "not just crying .. I was wailing, and beating my pillow, just wondering, why?" 

I asked the men in our group if they agreed with Palmore that it was far harder, emotionally, than they thought it would be. All raised their hands. [...]

http://www.abcnews.go.com/sections/Downtown/2020/downtown_divorcedmen_feature.html


And:

http://www.divorcemag.com/


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